This happened today. A life insurance salesman wants to network. He didn’t present himself as a life insurance salesman, of course. They never do.
I talked to him. He set up a call with someone he knows that would be a good contact for me. Sure. I talk to that person.
His process is to be an Introducer. Introduce me to all sorts of people. He is a “shake the box and see what happens” marketer.
He has been on me to do more schmooze calls. I have put him off. Finally I sent him an email asking if he is real and what he is doing. And why. And followed up with a call.
I asked him whether we had a definite purpose with the schmoozing, and explained the four types of luck and how I don’t want to play in type 1 or 2.
His response was to say he’s “not a throw spaghetti against the wall and see what sticks” person. And then he proceeded to throw spaghetti against my wall to see if any of it stuck.
He is what he said he isn’t. He did what he said he never does.
This is the same as someone who loudly proclaims his own honesty. That is a clue that you are dealing with a dishonest person. An honest person just is.
How do you keep yourself open to serendipity from the universe without burning all of your time on bullshit activities with bullshit people? I confess I don’t have an answer.
Maybe “no meetings unless transactional”? Push all meeting requests to calls? And push calls to emails, emails to text messages, and text messages to nothing?
Anyway, that’s a business question.
Live your life by seeking what is real.
As soon as someone self-declares a personal attribute, assume the opposite is real unless a string of actions over time confirms the truth of the assertion.
And if you smell someone playing the type 1 or type 2 luck game, know that they don’t understand reality the same way I do.
Help them to see what you see, if you can, but if that doesn’t work stay away from them. Some people don’t have eyes to see, ears to hear.