“If only I had his confidence. Then I would start a business.” (Insert your heart’s desire here, the secret you tell no one, if you don’t want to start a business).
How do you build the self-confidence that other people seem to have in surplus? They attack new adventures with glee, certain of success.
No. It starts with admitting defeat. Your best ideas, your hardest work, your strongest exercise of every molecule of discipline . . . got you where you are now.
No wonder you don’t have the confidence that if you tackle your project, you will succeed. You’ve done nothing to build the confidence. Your track record shows you can’t rely on yourself to produce a result.
Concede defeat.
And reach deep in your soul for something you DO have.
The power to decide. To commit.
Commit to forward action toward that goal. That dream. Your heart’s desire. “I will do this.”
All that exists follows commitment. Commitment creates action. Action is creation.
Results follow from action. it is impossible for it to be otherwise. You will produce results.
But action requires courage. The courage to take the tiniest step forward. The most trivial of all actions that might, if you persist, might pay off. you will need courage to do. Then to keep doing.
And when you see results, you will feel confidence. You know you can rely on yourself. If you say you want to do something, you do it—you have a track record.
Confidence is the byproduct, the output of making a commitment (frequently out of desperation) and having the courage to do and keep doing until the payoff becomes blindingly obvious—even to you.