If anyone can refute me—show me I’m making a mistake or looking at things from the wrong perspective—I’ll gladly change. It’s the truth I’m after, and the truth never harmed anyone. What harms us is to persist in self-deceit and ignorance.
Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, 6.21. Gregory Hays translation.
The theme song for what I’m doing here, what I aspire to be.
Scott Adams frequently said on his daily Periscopes that he changes his mind instantly and without ego when shown to be wrong. (Not his words but that’s the idea).
I did that, starting today. I am doing something that (to me) is helpful, encouraging to people I know well and want to help. Not so, I was informed. What I’m doing is pushy and not helpful.
Stopped. I didn’t take even a little offense. I’m just glad I found out my beliefs about how to make things better was wrong.
And my relationship with the targets of my “advice” seemed to improve immediately.
I want more of that.