A thing attracts or repels you. This force may be subtle or visible, but it exists.
This thought came to mind considering my back yard. It repels me. I don’t like being outside in my yard. Reasons? The dog shit, the hedges and bushes are overgrown, the garden furniture is covered with dust. Stuff like that.
And what am I doing? Complaining in my head about the dog, instead of picking up the shit. Complaining about the gardener, instead of doing something about it.
Is it any wonder that you are repelled? You are not repelled by the back yard. You are repelled by your own actions.
In my control, not in my control. Know the difference. And use this as a way to find the source of my discomfort.
In my control, my opinion of the hedges. In my control, a request to the gardener to trim them. Or do it myself. Out of my control, what the gardener does.
In my control, pick up the dog shit. Out of my control, the fact that we have a dog, the fact that dogs do, in fact, shit.