A thread from Visa gives a useful, actionable way to unfuck your life. And it is useful for any level of fucked-ness that your life happens to have. It is useful for any level of effort that you put into it.
Maybe things are so bad that you are metaphorically tumbling through space and can only manage to wiggle your toes. Start this method. It will compound. You will reverse your life’s entropy.
Remember—in good cheer—that entropy is ultimately inevitable and you will die. That’s the ayyyy/lmfao dichotomy that Visa looks at frequently. Life and contentment exists between Scylla and Charybdis.
Start with this question (it was in a graphic, so I’m typing it here):
My life is a wreck. How do start rebuilding it basically from scratch?
Here is the plan, in helpful steps. Followed, as always, with reassurance and exhortation.
Step 1 is you do an inventory. List out everything about your life. What are your possessions, relationships, behavior patterns, what is everything of consequence that comes to mind? What do you love? What do you hate? What torments you? List it all out. In writing. Look it over
https://twitter.com/visakanv/status/1551102360587407360?s=21&t=O61cBTzT1lR6MFDYFXW4oQ
2, you eliminate everything bad that you can eliminate from a first pass – throw out any junk/garbage from your home, workspace, unfollow news and celeb accounts from social media
3. double down on whatever good you can. Text friends you love, practice your fav thing for 5 mins
4. do another inventory. evaluate what’s changed, pay attention to how you feel. set out to do some self-reporting over ~30 days. What do you need to build up the courage to do? Quit current job? Find new job? Make a plan, break it down into baby steps, celebrate lil progress
5. read/follow @introspectvv I get into all of it in much more detail there 😎. but really it’s just all of the above. cultivate a sense of humor. celebrate lil frivolities and silliness. find lil ways to enjoy yourself today and also celebrate doing nice things for future you
you fail to stick to your plan that’s fine, shit happens, dust yourself off and try again. every failure is a teacher. It took me like 10+ attempts over 15 years to quit smoking. Every previous attempt was a failure but they all taught me things that helped me
also try to be at peace with “being a wreck”. everything is a wreck. existence is a great cosmic car crash. you don’t have to live your life anxiously fleeing the crime scene. you can learn to be ok with who you are, and amazingly that’ll help expand you into who you wanna become
recommendation I have that I seldom see other people make is to surround yourself with media that you love, that stirs your heart, that moves you to tears and makes you want to roar with life. to remind you what the point is