It all comes down to that. “I am the only . . . .”
I just want to be accepted. Not feel weird, not feel uncomfortable, on guard.
I don’t want to be alone. Lonely.
My mind creates the feeling of apartness, difference. I am somehow different from you and therefore . . . you don’t accept me.
The problem isn’t you not accepting me. the problem is me not accepting me.
More important? There is no apartness.
How do I shed this “I am the only . . .” stuff? Because it’s self-manufactured. I am going to search and search until I find a distinction between you and me. Then I am going to seize on it as a reason to feel different, rejected, alone.
How do I shed the “If I am different, then I am rejected” belief?
Let’s start here: we are all different if we look carefully enough and we are all the same if we look carefully enough. I will start to feel connection when I look for the similarity in you — whoever you are.
It’s on me. Search for the oneness. Look for the connection with everyone I meet, with kindness. You find what you are looking for. So look with togetherness, ease, friendship, love. And it will be there.